Man Up! How does trying to sound masculine affect your voice?

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Hey Friends,

In this episode, we explore deeper sociological issues around masculinity, and how trying to sound masculine might be impacting and even impeding your vocal expression.

The pressures men face to have a deep, masculine-sounding voice are real, and often, our male clients, to get what they think is that sound, end up pressing their voices down in a way that makes their voices sound monotone, mumbly and trapped.

This is a pressure that faces both men and women because a deeper, more ‘masculine’ sound is also associated with more gravitas and authority, so women also try to emulate this sound, and often in the same way, by pressing their voices down.

The issue with this pressing down strategy is it lowers your voice pitch potentially beyond where your voice wants to sit naturally, so you’re having to suppress not just your voice but maybe also your feelings so that your voice doesn’t move.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a more masculine sound in your voice, but there are healthier ways to find it.

Themes that come up are:
1. the difference between a lower pitch and a deeper resonance, and how to find both vocally
2. Exploring the idea that maybe there are ways to be a man in a more empowered way? That involves putting yourself out there more vocally, being more honest about who you are, and in doing so letting more of your body resonate, so you can find that deeper resonance?
3. Can this be true for women too who are wanting to access their deeper sound?
4. Simple exercises you can do to feel the difference between pitch and resonance

If you’re interested in a warm up that particularly addresses this issue, you can find one here.

The above warm up and this episode are also in podcast form– you can find them by searching for ‘BeSpoke Speaks’ on iTunes, Buzzsprout, Spotify, GooglePodcasts and Stitcher.

This masculinity issue can come up in a variety of performance and public speaking contexts, as well as personal communication contexts. We’re especially curious to hear from the men listening what questions this sparks for you and how this issue affects you.

Take good care,

Christine & Lindsay

 

The Importance of Rituals

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Hey Friends,

In this episode, we discuss the importance of creating regular rituals for yourself that help you feel more at ease generally, so that you can be more at ease in and ready for important communication events, like meetings, presentations, auditions, performances, etc. Rituals, whether physical, vocal, mental or some combination of all three, can help you start a communication event mindfully, because they allow you to take ownership over your own presence and how you are feeling before you start. These rituals can be something that are regular or something you do right before you communicate. They can last as long as they need to for you and that can change depending on the day and the circumstance.

We’ll talk you through:

– strategies for creating rituals
– ideas for a 1-hour ritual that includes a physical, vocal and mental component
– ideas for a 20-minute ritual that includes a physical, vocal and mental component
– ideas for a 5-minute ritual that includes a physical, vocal and mental component

We’ll also discuss how to maintain the benefits of the ritual as you move through your day.

When you are more at ease, you are a better communicator. Whatever ritual you develop, let it be one that helps you find more ease. Do show up for your ritual often to get the full benefits of it, but don’t get discouraged or give up if sometimes you don’t show up– it’s about finding that balance where you show up regularly, but also where the ritual is there to serve you– you are not there to serve the ritual.

You can also find this episode in podcast form on iTunes, Spotify, Buzzsprout, GooglePodcasts and Stitcher.

We’d love to hear from you about how you’re going to take this advice forward, or what rituals you already have in place that you love. What rituals do you want to develop? How can we help?

Take good care,

Christine & Lindsay

 

Staying Present in Unprecedented Times: Part 3

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Hi Friends,

This episode is Part 3 of our 3-part series, ‘Staying Present in Unprecedented Times,’ designed to support you through this crazy new world of isolation and uncertainty as we navigate the health crisis that is Covid-19. In Part 1, we took you through a mindfulness practice called Orientation to help you connect to the present moment through your senses. In Part 2, we combined Orientation with a body scan to help you feel more embodied as you orient to the present moment.

In this episode, we dive deeper into both Orientation and the body scan practice so that you can connect on a physical level towards what is enjoyable about the present moment. This practice helps you not only come into the here and now in an embodied way, but strategically focus your perception on what you’re enjoying about the here and now– an invaluable skill in any time in life, but particularly right now, when you might be dealing with an unusual level of uncertainty, discomfort and anxiety. Orienting towards what’s pleasant can help you communicate more from a place of connection, ease and even enjoyment, rather than anxiety, panic or stress.

This practice is inspired by Organic Intelligence(r), which you can find out more about here, and Fitzmaurice Voicework(r), which you can find out more about here.

You can also find this episode in podcast form by searching for ‘BeSpoke Speaks’ on iTunes, BuzzSprout, Spotify, GooglePodcasts and Stitcher.

Please let us know how you get on with this practice, what questions it brings up for you, and what other kind of support you would like as we navigate these current times. Please also share this episode with anyone you think could use the support.

Take good care,

Christine & Lindsay

 

 

Staying Present in Unprecedented Times: Part 2

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An easy way to feel more embodied is to connect to where you feel your feet, or even the the support of the floor underneath your feet.

Hi Friends,

This is part 2 of our 3 part series, ‘Staying Present in Unprecedented Times’, designed to support you through this crazy new world of isolation and uncertainty as we navigate the health crisis that is Covid-19. In Part 1, we took you through a mindfulness practice called Orientation to help you connect to the present moment through your senses.

In this episode, we will practice orientation again, and then move into an oriented body scan so you can start to feel more connected to your body in the present moment, then we end with orientation from a more embodied place. This practice is useful if you find that your thoughts and feelings are consistently spiraling towards worries and anxieties that are not currently happening in the present moment, or if your awareness of the present moment is trending towards the negative. This sequence will help you find more ease in the present moment by helping you connect to the neutral reality of the here and now, and maybe even to what’s pleasant about the here and now– so that if and when you need to communicate, it’s from a place of ease and connection rather than panic and anxiety.

This practice is inspired by Organic Intelligence(r), which you can find out more about here, and Fitzmaurice Voicework(r), which you can find out more about here.

You can also find this episode in podcast form by searching for ‘BeSpoke Speaks’ on iTunes, BuzzSprout, Spotify, GooglePodcasts and Stitcher.

Please let us know how you get on with this practice, what questions it brings up for you, and what other kind of support you would like as we navigate these current times. Please also share this episode with anyone you think could use the support.

Take good care,

Christine & Lindsay